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Long Term Transitioning Tips Part 2

February 15, 2011

Amel Larrieux-one of my hair idols!

  This is a continuation of Part 1’s tips. So carrying on…

6. Learn how to do your hair girl!

In my honest opinion, there is no reason why any woman can have a legit excuse for not knowing how to do her hair. For those of you who are a slave to the salon so much so, that you have no knowledge of your own hair and how to do it….well, shame on you. Think of this period as a time where you can learn. The easiest and healthiest route for you hair is to blend your relaxed texture to match your new growth. Do braid outs, twist outs, or my personal favorite-bantu knot outs to help you achieve this. If done right, these styles won’t damage your hair and are aesthetically pleasing. Look to Youtube for tutorials. Then practice and eventually, you will get the hang of it. I can admit that when I was fully relaxed I didn’t really do much to my hair. I flat ironed it, curled it, ponytailed it, bunned it, blah blah, etc, know, the usual styles. But I have gotten the most compliments on my hair ever during this past year and I credit my new found styling creativity for that. Doing this has also saved me $$ and I can’t ever be mad at that!

I refuse to use this gunk any longer/

7. Change your products

Okay so some transitioners claim that their hair still responds well to the products they have always used  since when they were relaxed. And if this is the case for you, then keep on using what works for you. Unfortunately, this is not the case for me. I refuse to put anything with petrolatum on my hair anymore…ugghh.. My transitioning hair demands alot more from me than when I was fully relaxed. And I thought my relaxed hair was a diva!  Here’s an analogy I’ve created for my hair:

  • I like to think of my transitoning hair as two kids I have to take care of. My relaxed hair is my 17 year old teenager: I have experience raising it, it doesn’t have to be looked after much since it will be leaving the house soon (the house meaning my head, lol) but still needs guidance from time to time. My new growth on the other hand, is my 3 year old toddler: It loves to be babied, needs attention  and to be fed (water) constantly, and has a mind of its own. So when you have to take care of  the toddler and teen together it can be chaotic (understand?).

Your toddler is going to need more from you than your teen. Your teen may respond well to products with a clogging mineral oil ingredient, and you toddler may have a tantrum over it. So the best solution is to find something that works for both of them. Step your product game up. Check out online beauty stores like Curlmart, that have healthy products for your hair. Read the reviews. Then look on Youtube to see if there are any reviews on the products of your interest.  Maybe you made some mistakes when raising your teen in the past, but hey, at least you can learn from it so you can raise your toddler better!

8. Trim, trim, trim

It is vital that you come  to a point where you trim your hair every month. Trimming is important for transitioners because your hair in this state is liable to break off easier which means your ends will get a bit raggedy or uneven. Trimming your hair often is a good way of preventing this. If you don’t, then any raggedy or split end you have will travel up the hair shaft and can reach your new growth and split that too! So trim. I started trimming around the 5 month-post relaxer mark and have done it every month since then. And quite honestly my hair hasn’t gotten drastically shorter, it is still the same length it was since then. Also, the less relaxed hair you have attached to your new growth, the easier your transition will be.

9. Release the expectations!! (Important!)

This has been one of the biggest challenges for me during my transition. Like stated in a previous post, I’ve cut random strands of my hair at the demarcation line, just to see what it looks like. The curiosity of wondering how my hair will look with the relaxed ends nixed, kills me sometimes (not enough to BC just yet,  but you catch my Even though which each day that passes, I know I’m getting closer to that big curly hair I’ve been dreaming of, I have to realize that my hair may not end up like some of the girls in the pictures I look to as inspiration. It will never, ever look like Taren 916  or Amel Larrieux (I love their hair) and I have to accept that. Who knows how my hair will turn out? This unknown freaks me out sometimes because I don’t want to have blind expectations of what my hair will be just because I want it to be a certain way. So I think of this transitioning process not only being for my hair, but for me to get acclimated to a mindset more accepting of whatever my hair will become. So with that being said…

10. BC when YOU want to

I am inspired when I look on a forum or blog and see that someone has BCed. Sometimes the inspiration creates more of an urge to BC. But I am going to do it when I’m ready and you should too. Don’t let anyone pressure you, because at the end of the day YOU have to do your hair everyday, NOT them. This may sound dumb, but the last thing that I want is to BC and regret the time that I do it. I would rather feel the liberating, freeing experience like others, than being consumed by thoughts of wishing I would’ve waited. The way I see it, after BCing I plan to be natural until I die, so what’s the rush?  I will do it when I’m good and ready…and ladies, you should too!

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