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All Black Everything

February 26, 2011

Haven’t posted on my nails <AGAIN> in a minute. I promise I will do better….so after the nude I decided to do a darker shade. Check it below:

Yes it’s black but it doesn’t really give off the goth vibe. It’s covered with silver sparkles so that makes the polish look like more of a deep, deep charcoal and definitely changes it up.

Here’s what I used:

  • Sinful Colors polish in Secret Admirer
  • NK Fast Dry Top Coat

Me likey!

Long Term Transitioning Tips Part 2

February 15, 2011

Amel Larrieux-one of my hair idols!

  This is a continuation of Part 1’s tips. So carrying on…

6. Learn how to do your hair girl!

In my honest opinion, there is no reason why any woman can have a legit excuse for not knowing how to do her hair. For those of you who are a slave to the salon so much so, that you have no knowledge of your own hair and how to do it….well, shame on you. Think of this period as a time where you can learn. The easiest and healthiest route for you hair is to blend your relaxed texture to match your new growth. Do braid outs, twist outs, or my personal favorite-bantu knot outs to help you achieve this. If done right, these styles won’t damage your hair and are aesthetically pleasing. Look to Youtube for tutorials. Then practice and eventually, you will get the hang of it. I can admit that when I was fully relaxed I didn’t really do much to my hair. I flat ironed it, curled it, ponytailed it, bunned it, blah blah, etc, etc..you know, the usual styles. But I have gotten the most compliments on my hair ever during this past year and I credit my new found styling creativity for that. Doing this has also saved me $$ and I can’t ever be mad at that!

I refuse to use this gunk any longer/pharmacypricer.com

7. Change your products

Okay so some transitioners claim that their hair still responds well to the products they have always used  since when they were relaxed. And if this is the case for you, then keep on using what works for you. Unfortunately, this is not the case for me. I refuse to put anything with petrolatum on my hair anymore…ugghh.. My transitioning hair demands alot more from me than when I was fully relaxed. And I thought my relaxed hair was a diva!  Here’s an analogy I’ve created for my hair:

  • I like to think of my transitoning hair as two kids I have to take care of. My relaxed hair is my 17 year old teenager: I have experience raising it, it doesn’t have to be looked after much since it will be leaving the house soon (the house meaning my head, lol) but still needs guidance from time to time. My new growth on the other hand, is my 3 year old toddler: It loves to be babied, needs attention  and to be fed (water) constantly, and has a mind of its own. So when you have to take care of  the toddler and teen together it can be chaotic (understand?).

Your toddler is going to need more from you than your teen. Your teen may respond well to products with a clogging mineral oil ingredient, and you toddler may have a tantrum over it. So the best solution is to find something that works for both of them. Step your product game up. Check out online beauty stores like Curlmart, that have healthy products for your hair. Read the reviews. Then look on Youtube to see if there are any reviews on the products of your interest.  Maybe you made some mistakes when raising your teen in the past, but hey, at least you can learn from it so you can raise your toddler better!

8. Trim, trim, trim

It is vital that you come  to a point where you trim your hair every month. Trimming is important for transitioners because your hair in this state is liable to break off easier which means your ends will get a bit raggedy or uneven. Trimming your hair often is a good way of preventing this. If you don’t, then any raggedy or split end you have will travel up the hair shaft and can reach your new growth and split that too! So trim. I started trimming around the 5 month-post relaxer mark and have done it every month since then. And quite honestly my hair hasn’t gotten drastically shorter, it is still the same length it was since then. Also, the less relaxed hair you have attached to your new growth, the easier your transition will be.

9. Release the expectations!! (Important!)

This has been one of the biggest challenges for me during my transition. Like stated in a previous post, I’ve cut random strands of my hair at the demarcation line, just to see what it looks like. The curiosity of wondering how my hair will look with the relaxed ends nixed, kills me sometimes (not enough to BC just yet,  but you catch my drift..lol). Even though which each day that passes, I know I’m getting closer to that big curly hair I’ve been dreaming of, I have to realize that my hair may not end up like some of the girls in the pictures I look to as inspiration. It will never, ever look like Taren 916  or Amel Larrieux (I love their hair) and I have to accept that. Who knows how my hair will turn out? This unknown freaks me out sometimes because I don’t want to have blind expectations of what my hair will be just because I want it to be a certain way. So I think of this transitioning process not only being for my hair, but for me to get acclimated to a mindset more accepting of whatever my hair will become. So with that being said…

10. BC when YOU want to

I am inspired when I look on a forum or blog and see that someone has BCed. Sometimes the inspiration creates more of an urge to BC. But I am going to do it when I’m ready and you should too. Don’t let anyone pressure you, because at the end of the day YOU have to do your hair everyday, NOT them. This may sound dumb, but the last thing that I want is to BC and regret the time that I do it. I would rather feel the liberating, freeing experience like others, than being consumed by thoughts of wishing I would’ve waited. The way I see it, after BCing I plan to be natural until I die, so what’s the rush?  I will do it when I’m good and ready…and ladies, you should too!

Random Thought:My Friends

February 15, 2011

It’s interesting how most of my really good friends are people who I either did not like, or thought were weird when I first met them.

Long Term Transitioning Tips Part 1

February 8, 2011

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I am by no means a “pro” when it comes to transitioning from a relaxer to natural. Shoo, I haven’t even seen my hair fully natural since I was 6 or so.

But after a year of this madness, I have finally come to a point where I am understanding of both textures collectively. I feel like I have paid my dues to the transitioning gods and now I can give others advice on how to be successful in this whole process. 

So for those of you out there that are currently (or are aspiring to), doing a long-term transition without adding weave or extensions here are my tips in no particular order. Take notes my little pupils!

1.Halt all trips to the Dominican salon

Yes this is the one place you can walk in with your hair jacked up and  without an appointment and walk out whipping your hair back and forth like you’re in a Pantene Pro-V commercial for just $18 bucks. But let’s keep it real ladies. We know they put too much heat on our hair. Having tears stream out of your eyes as the blow dryer is aimed at your scalp with a hotter than hell setting is a sign…. and yes I am speaking from experience. Not only that, the rigorous rubbing of the shampoo on your scalp can’t be good. Not to mention the fact that they probably aren’t going to take the time needed to detangle your hair effectively. Imagine them raking their comb carelessly from root to tip through your hair, while being 8 months post relaxer with 4 inches of new growth connected to 6 inches of relaxed hair. ouuccch…Uh yeah there’s a reason why you’re in and out within an hour…Just say no Mami!

2. Find what your hair likes

This transitioning time is not time just used for stalling until you are ready to do the Big Chop. This is your time to learn what your hair likes and dislikes. Likes and dislikes meaning products to use,  how to build your regimen, and what styles are best during this process. Your transitioning hair may not like  the same products that your fully relaxed hair liked. You may will have to change how you wash and detangle your hair. You will have to moisturize more. You won’t get this chance to learn your texture if you weave your hair up all the time. You also won’t learn anything about your hair if you get it pressed or flat ironed consistently. Which brings me to my next point…

3. Do not consistently flat iron your hair

I know this seems like the easiest way to transition. The first time I transitioned, this is how I thought I had to do it. But after 8 months and inches of new growth, I got so fed up with forcing my hair to do something it didn’t want to do, that I went back to the relaxer. So you see where that got me. Consistent flat ironing, pressing and blow drying your hair at high heat levels not only damages your hair, but can damage your natural curl pattern. I’ve seen it before. A few of my friends transitioned this route and ended up with a head full of curly hair and stick straight sections of hair in the most random places. And the only way to get rid of those heat damaged strands? To cut them off. So if you plan on straightening your hair during this time, do not make a habit out of it.

4.  Moisturize, moisturize, and repeat

Our relaxed hair needs moisture naturally. But when you are transitioning, you need even more. Natural hair craves h20 and our relaxed hair doesn’t necessarily, so you will have to find a balance in how to distribute moisture properly to both textures. I can’t stress this tip enough, and it’s still something I am working on achieving myself. Use leave-ins post washing, and creamy moisturizers several times a week if not needed daily. Seal your ends with oils like jojoba, grape seed, or castor or butters like shea.

5. Have patience when detangling

Honestly I will say this is another main factor that went into me not transitioning completely the first time around. I was so fed up with detangling and how much longer it took than when I was relaxed that I just said “Eff this.. I can’t take it any longer!”. If you find yourself getting to this point pay close attention to these two words that will save you:  smaller sections. Start detangling in smaller sections and even wash your hair in sections instead of all at the same time. Will it take longer? Probably. But it will save you time and frustration when it comes to detangling and you won’t lose as much hair than if you were to not do it this way. Devote enough time to detangling your hair so that you are never rushed. Here’s some more hair saving pointers for this crucial tip:

  • use a WIDE tooth comb (I wouldn’t suggest a brush unless it’s a Denman) that is preferably seamless
  • detangle from the bottom (ends) to the top (root) slowly
  • be careful around the demarcation line or else your hair will break off
  • if you choose to not detangle in the shower, do it immediately after you get out, keeping a spray bottle of water handy for when you need to re-wet the hair as it’s drying , and applying a leave-in before hand (Kimmaytube is what I use)
  • if you detangle in the shower, make sure your hair is wet and full of conditoner
  • be PATIENT! It’s the only way you will get through detangling successfully

Stay tuned for Part 2…

The Kimmaytube Leave-In is the ISH!

February 2, 2011

Despite what I’ve said in a previous post, I’d have to say the biggest pitfall of  transitioning has been….

Dun Dun Dun…..!

Detangling my hair.

Welp, until a month ago.

So while I was at home in California, I showed my mom some of the blogs I go to when it comes to my natural hair obsession and some of the YouTube channels I stalk. We ran across a video of Kimmaytube (the natural hair guru) giving a tutorial of how to create the perfectly PH balanced leave in conditioner that she uses regularly. My mom asked me if I wanted to try the concoction and of course I said yes. So that night we headed to the health food store and got all the ingredients.

To make the leave-in you need:

  • 2 tbsp of Kinky Curly Knot Today
  • 2 tbsp of Aloe Vera Juice
  • 2 teasp of castor oil
  • 2 teasp of jojoba oil

Mix all ingredients together. Refrigerate after using.

When I mixed it, it ended up being kind of runny, but a smooth consistency. But I have to note that we tried finding Kinky Curly at the health food store we went to but they didn’t carry it, and the nearest Whole Foods ran out, so I made the executive decision to use Giovanni’s Direct-Leave In as a substitute for the Kinky Curly. Kimmaytube does say in the video that you can use a sub for the Kinky Curly anyways, so it was all good.

I used just as Kimmay directed, right after washing and conditioning my hair once I was out the shower. As I was detangling each small section of my hair I would apply a little of the concoction and run the comb through.

Let me tell you…..That detangling session was the.EASIEST. detangling.session I. ever. had.

Check out the pic below of how much hair I lost.

Can you believe this is the only hair that came from detangling?/photo by intreegme

I can’t remember the last time I lost this little hair after washing. Honestly I was truly amazed. Since then, my detangling sessions have been a breeze.  To the point where I’m tempted, sooo tempted, to move back my expected big chop date of June 2011 until later. BUT, I’ve promised myself I would make the chop then so that is what I will stick to.

Well at least my transition for the next 5 months will be more painless. <ThankGod>

Going NUDE for the New Year!

January 11, 2011
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GOING NUDE FOR THE NEW YEAR (1.1.11) 

I know I haven’t posted on my nails in a hot minute. But since my previous nail post, I’ve just been wearing the same shades you all have seen in past posts. So I figured I’d post when I switched things up.

For the new year I decided to wear a shade I’ve never worn before. NUDE!

What I used:

  • F21’s nail polish in Taupe
  • NK Fast Dry Top Coat

Here were the results:

I loved them!

Because the color is very close to my skin tone, I didn’t like it instantly. But by the end of the first day, I was in love with it. The color to me is unique yet classy. Something that can be worn at any time, and to me is suitable enough to wear to a corporate interview.

While I was at home in California for the holidays, I ended up doing my mom’s nails with the same color and she loved it as well. So being the nice daughter I am, I gave the polish to her. So this will be the last pic you see of this color:

What I’m Loving Right Now

December 30, 2010

The Vans X Santigold Chained high Tops sneakers are the ish!
Check em’ below….

Thes shoes are too nice to skate in!/nicekicks.com

As a tomboy at heart, I am a girl who loves a good gym shoe/sneaker/tennis shoe (whatever you wanna call them) and this shoe is the bizness. Seeing as I am a sucker for perforated leather and the color black, you can see why this shoe is right up my alley. It’s simple, yet catchy and stylish- perfect for looking fly while running errands or having a casual day out the house.

And to me: black on black shoes= always looking fresh (because it doesn’t take much to clean them)!

They are coming out spring 2011, so yes this will be on my “Things to Cop” list.

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